Monday, 26 June 2017

4 tips to help you Be The Best Independent Mum

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If you’re raising a child then you’re already doing a remarkable thing. As a Mum, many things we do are a matter of maternal instinct, whether we realise it or not. Still, that doesn’t mean you feel as if you know what you’re doing as a parent most of the time and nobody really does.

There’s no rulebook to bringing up a child because every kid is different; what works for one young person may not work for another. The key is to just look after your child to the best of your ability and let them grow into their own person. Here are some tips to help you be the best independent mother possible, though you’re likely already doing a great job.

Accept support
If your family want to help you or if you’ve started seeing a new partner, maybe, then accept the support from your loved ones. You don’t have to do it all alone. You might want a night out with friends, or, as mentioned, a date with somebody new that you’re getting to know. It might be hard to let somebody new into your life when you’re trying to raise a child because your protective motherly instincts are kicking in, but you should be allowing yourself to be your own person. You should be allowing yourself to connect with others and accept their help. You can be an independent mother without being a lonely and unsupported mother.

Get your own house
Maybe you were living with a partner in the past but things didn’t work out, or maybe you’ve been with parents or in a flat barely big enough for yourself. You’ve got to think ahead to the future; this child will grow up, and you want to make sure you live in a place that they can grow into with you. You might want to look into getting a house for you and your child (and any potential future family members or a partner).

Be smart about your property hunting. This all about finding your independence, but you don’t have to walk blindly into the decision. You could look into options such as Allcott Associates chartered surveyors to help you look at houses from a technical standpoint; money is precious to any mother who needs to look after her children and you don’t want to find yourself getting a raw deal with a property that has countless hidden problems. A second opinion doesn’t take away from your independence as a mother; it’s a smart decision if anything.

Help your kids to be independent too
You probably won’t want to make your baby wash the dishes (although there may be a parallel universe in which babies can do that), but as your child gets a little older you might want to help them to be just as independent as their mother. You could teach them about the real world by paying them some pocket money every weekend for helping you with chores such as laying the table, washing up, or perhaps even hoovering the floor a couple of times a week. They’ll be bound to respect you more for all the work you do for them, and that’s also important with regards to helping them become a well-rounded, respectful individual. The best gift you can give your children as a mother is the knowledge they’ll need to tackle the world one day.

Find your calm place
It’s so important to take time out of the day for yourself. Whether your child is 3 years old or 13 years old, you’re allowed to take time away from them now and then; your parents, friends, or even a babysitter that you know and trust would all likely love to spend an evening looking after your child now and then. You could go and watch a movie with friends or, even better, have a bit of alone time. Relax in the bath, watch that Netflix show you’ve barely had time for, or sleep.

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Monthly Round Up : May 2017

We had three parties in May. Three. The kids have better social lives than I do!  We have a little routine now - I take E to the party (T hasn't had many invites yet) and D will take T out for a little walk or they pop into work to see Nanny and Grandad, before going to do some shopping. T is never that impressed when she realises we're going off without her but usually has a nice time with D regardless.

We took a trip to Banham Zoo (we're still making good use of our season tickets). The girls love a trip to the zoo and were absolutely shattered by the time we got back to the car. 

We had a trip to the local farm with our friends A and P, which actually seems like a lifetime ago.  It was nice and quiet and we just pottered around for a couple of hours before the school run.

We've re-introduced reward charts. There's a couple of things we need to focus on with the girls. T has been particularly... challenging over the past few weeks with tantrums and being particularly vocal. Not to mention the issues with nursery and not eating through the day. With E, its not that she's overly naughty but that she needs some reminders and positive reinforcement here and there.

T and I had a nice afternoon play date with my lovely friend R and her little boy, A.  With us both juggling work and everything that goes with two young children, it can be difficult to catch up so it was long over due. 

Its been nice getting into a routine of having a Monday to myself. I drop the kids off at school and nursery and then potter around for the rest of the day, doing as much or as little as I like. I've been feeling SO much better for it too!  

We've been making great use of our garden. I've been spending a huge amount of time outside, weeding and planting and generally pottering about whilst the kids play. Its been so nice.

D and I braved a trip to Ikea and spent an absolute bomb.  As its a bit of a trek for us to get there, when we do go, we are armed with a long list of what we want to get and this time was no exception. We came back with curtain poles for the three windows in the living room, a pole for the bathroom and new storage furniture for the playroom, not forgetting curtains for the bathroom, new cushions and a ton of other things.

And of course, we've had half term which was surprisingly easy with neither of the girls being ill. Honestly, its such a rarity it felt somewhat strange!  

I'm still having a few issues with my jaw and the lump that I have on it. I'm pretty sure its got bigger, although that could just be me being paranoid about it.  I've been having a lot of pain in my jaw and ear, as well as tingling and tightness.  The Doctor had hoped a week using a spray in my ear might make a difference but it hasn't and now I have to wait it out for my follow up appointment with the hospital as he said he doesn't have a clue what's causing the issues and whether its related to the lump or not.  So he's sent me away with some co-codamol and told me to wait until August, which is when the appointment is due.  Fab, no?

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