Tuesday, 7 January 2014

My Big Day

Inspired by Hannah's recent post about finding her perfect wedding dress, I thought I would share the details of our big day.

D and I have been together for 14 years this January. 14 years! Marriage had been discussed a number of times, mostly by me with D nodding his head here and there but it was never taken any further. We had decided we would get married, it was just a case of doing it!

After E's arrival there was the obvious discussion about her surname. I didn't want to have a different surname to her but at the same time, there was no point in giving her my surname if we were going to get married in the future. When we registered her birth, we picked up the relevant information about marriage ceremonies... and promptly put it to one side!

Fast forward to April 2013. We had another conversation along the lines of "if we're going to do it, lets just do it". We were in agreement that in our circumstances it seemed daft to spend a lot of money on a big day: we had been together 13 years, living together for 7, had a young baby and were making plans to build our home. Not only that, but neither of us are keen being the centre of attention - for me, the thought of walking down the aisle/getting married infront of everyone felt like an ordeal! There was also my (very!) complicated family to take into consideration.

And so, we decided. And got planning, very quickly - there was no point in having a long engagement and we weren't having a big day so there was no need to wait. Plus, lets be honest - I'd waited a long time for this, I didn't want to wait any longer than needed. I wanted to be married! Referring to D as my boyfriend was fine when it was just us but having E, it didn't feel right. I wanted to be married and for her to know her parents were married. (I'm just going to add here that it doesn't matter to me whether people are married when they have children or not, it was just what I wanted).

I had an engagement ring and told people we would be getting married. We were asked when and we kept the date quiet as we had decided we weren't inviting family and friends. When asked, I told people that they would know when it had happened! 

And so the day arrived. Because we had gone for the cheapest option (just 2 witnesses) we were limited to the time we could marry - it had to be on a Wednesday at a set time (before 10am, from memory!). We went to the Registry Office with E and our two mums for the ceremony and that was it. D wore jeans and a blazer and I wore a maxi dress - again, it didn't seem worth spending a huge amount on a dress that I would only wear once. Afterwards we went home, made a few calls and sent a few text messages. Between telling people we would be getting married and the actual day I think it was a matter of approx. 4 weeks, so needless to say, people were surprised! 

And the rest of the day was just as low key. We went for lunch in the afternoon (there was 9 of us in total) and D went out in the evening, as he does every week. 

All in all, it was very low key but for us, it was perfect. It was so low key infact, we hardly took any photos (and many of those taken were a bit blurry - hence the poor trio I've shared!).

Have you blogged about your big day? Do leave a comment, I'd love to find out more.



  1. It sounds like the perfect, chilled out day! How I wish our wedding could be like this ;) xx

    ps thank you for the mention!

    1. You're welcome! I'm sure your day will be perfect whatever your plans x

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    1. Its surprising how many people have said that they wish they had had a quiet wedding day. I think we often end up guided by other people's suggestions and expectations. So long as the bride and groom are happy that's all that matters :)

  3. I'm not sure Iv'e ever seen a more beautiful wedding pic than the one of you and baby here - You look stunning and incredibly happy. Lovely blog!

  4. That sounds lovely! I really love the individuality of weddings - You can be who you are as a couple on that day. Thank you for sharing!

  5. souns lovely, no stress or faff!!! #archiveday


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